New year expectations v reality

As the end of a year draws closer, our devices flood us with adverts and prompts asking if we are ready to get fitter, stronger, and become a new version of ourselves. Fancy reels and adverts encourage us to take up ‘unmissable’ offers for gym memberships, dietary products, and all that’s in-between. It is marketing at its best, when at the end of the new year we are expected to take the opportunity to make such changes and are made to think we would be silly not to. Deep down we all know this is not true, it is marketing to sell us a product, taking advantage of the time of year, and the mindset that many find ourselves in. We become reflective, and may have regrets or wishes that didn’t come to fruition during the year. With a chronic illness, quite frequently plans have to be canceled, you may have endured surgery, new treatments, or even suffered a tragic loss. 

This year, let’s take the time to reflect if one wishes, but also go into the year grateful for another, and with no expectations that society holds us so strongly to make. There is nothing wrong with just going into the new year being hopefully to be as well as expected in your circumstances. To take joy in the little things. To be happy with seeing the sun rise and set in a day, and take whatever comes in-between and roll with it. Of course having goals and things to focus on is great, and can be great for your mental health! However, if that isn’t the head space you are in right now that is perfectly ok too. Take the new year as it comes, spend time with loved ones and make lovely memories, and ease yourself into the changing year. It’s ok not to have a big party. It’s ok to cancel on plans if you aren’t feeling up to it. It’s ok to not stay up until midnight and stay in your pyjamas. You don’t need to dress up and go all out on a big party, food, and tickets to a show. If you want to, go for it and have the best time. If you want to get an early night’s sleep and be comfy, do it and enjoy it. Let’s take the pressure off!

If you are struggling with the chaos of the season, try and find the time to practice some self care. We all know the drill, take a hot bath, get some fresh air, take a walk, grab a coffee with a friend, read a book, whatever you do to be kind to yourself. Unless it is an absolute emergency, whatever is left on your list for the day can wait until the next. The festive period brings with it lots of plans and opportunities to meet up with friends old and new. Whether it’s parties, taking the kids here and there, and running all those extra festive errands to prepare for Christmas. It can leave you feeling wiped out before the new year even begins. Simple yet crucial things such as keeping hydrated can take a step back. I know I am guilty for not keeping on top of my fluid intake, and end most days with a headache and realising I have had very little to drink all day! With kids, life seems to be so much more busy this time of year. So many more things to squeeze in, school needs more from you, and you are trying to spin all these plates at the same time. I hope you find joy in the little things this season, and have the best time with family and friends ready for a new year and a chance to start over. 

Rach x